It is that time of the year again for your New Year’s Resolution. Most people only choose one New Year’s Resolution, when in reality there are several they can do to make their life better. These are my 10 New Year’s Resolution.
Releasing Toxic People
This is my biggest New Year’s Resolution. Whether it is family, friends, or even a significant other, it is time to let go of the toxic people in your life. Yes, it may hurt. Yes, you may feel a little empty but that feeling is only temporary. Think of all of the benefits you will get from releasing the toxicity out of your life. No more walking on eggshells, no more putting your needs to the side. It is time to make yourself happy! If you aren’t happy your kids will sense it.
I was always big into working out, and then I had my son. Being a single mom, it is hard to find time to workout. The extra time I get, I normally clean or work or do something else that requires my attention. So do I really have time to work out? Yes. Do I? No. I realized that I can take 30min out of my day and workout. It will help with my stress and my self-esteem. It has so many benefits that I can spare 30min a day 4 times a week. What excuse do you give yourself to not workout?
Waking Up Earlier
This is going to be a very hard one for me. Since I was little, I always enjoyed staying up late and sleeping in. I have always been a night owl. But, I know I can get a lot more done if I wake up even 30min before my son does. I can take my shower and meditate all before he wakes up. What things can you do if you woke up a little earlier before your children?
I am horrible at figuring out what I’m going to cook for dinner, that I end up waiting too long and end up not cooking at all! So meal planning is a must! The few times I have done it, it made my life so much better. I knew what I was cooking, I had the ingredients, and I made dinner early instead of waiting until 8pm when I was exhausted. I also realize when I meal plan, I spend less money on eating out. It is a win-win!
Do Weekly Self Care
This is so important and I am so horrible at it. Ever since becoming a mother and a single mother at that, I have no idea how to do weekly self-care for myself. I always feel like there are more important things that I could be doing. So at least once a week I am going to take a very nice hot long bubble bath as soon as my son lays his head down for bed. I am going to add some lavender, rose petals, and Epsom salt. Dr. Teal’s is actually my favorite because some of them already have the lavender smell. This always helps me wind down and makes me feel amazing afterward.
Learn to Say “No”
I have the hardest time telling people no, especially if it is family. But, saying no is actually a form of practicing self-care. Your health is important, so if you are to tired to go to a family dinner, “SAY NO”. It is okay. The only time saying no is selfish is when saying no causes harm to other people. So if you are not causing them harm by saying no, say no! Release the guilt, you are important too!
Let it Go
It is a new year. Let go of all the hurt, trauma, guilt, and shame from the past. It is time to let it go, heal, and move forward. If you don’t let it go, the only person it is hurting is yourself. You are stronger than you think are. Show the world the confident, beautiful woman that you are!
Get on a Budget
You are a mother and emergencies arise. Do you have a nest egg set aside for emergencies? Do you have money set aside for when your kids want to start sports or a particular hobby? Now is the time to start budgeting. If you stick with your budget, you will have extra money for your kids or even that family vacation you have been wanting to take for a while. Do you really need to order that pizza for $20 or is that $20 you can use on your family vacation?
Put the Electronics Away
Your children love you and all they want from you is your time. Giving the kids a bath? Put the electronics away for a little bit and be present. Do you really need to see your Facebook feed or is your child’s memory of their mother playing with them in the bathtub more important? Take a look at what you are doing from your child’s point of view. What would you want to remember? These are the things I tell myself every once in awhile, but I really want it to be something I tell myself every day.
Start a New Hobby
Now, this can be literally anything! Maybe even try a new hobby that you can do with the whole family. If not, you could use it as part of your self-care routine. My recent hobby has been my Cricut Explore Air 2. Many women use a Cricut and make things to sell as a side business. I honestly love it just for myself. I love making cups and t-shirts for my family that are unique. They make great gifts and you hardly spend anything but the family absolutely loves it!
What are your New Year’s Resolutions going to be?
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These are all great ideas, and they apply to everyone. I’ll be sure to keep them in mind as I move into the new year. It’s been a tough year all around. The only way forward is to let things go.
Great ideas! Hoping for a better 2021!
These are great ideas! I’d love to do meal planning and I would add learning to forgive myself more.
These are great! I am doing ALL the things you listed above. I started my action towards my resolutions this month and plan to continue on into the new year. Great read!
These are great ideas. I definitely have goals of getting to bed earlier in 2021, having screen free time and letting things go more. Thanks!
I have set a rule for myself. To have my me-time everyday after the kids go to bed. During that time, I read, watch a web series or anything I feel like. After giving the full day to my family and kids, I don’t feel guilty taking couple of hours of me-time. In fact, it charges me up for the next day.